Returning to work

Returning to work is often a hard situation and one that does not need to be rushed. Your decision to return to work is very individual depending on how you are feeling about your return. The thought of facing people and their reactions can be quite daunting especially if your work colleagues weren't aware that you were pregnant or possibly they were aware and you are not up to facing any questions or comments.

There are ways that you can prepare yourself for facing the questions & comments you may face. Once you have returned to work for that first time you might find the next wont be as bad.

Talk to your doctor about your return to work, they may recommend you return with less hours. Is returning with less hours an option for you?

Ask your employer what they can do to make your transition easier- eg less hours, role which has less demand or stress.

You could go into work to have a coffee with a friend before you start, that way you have gotten that first initial visit out of the way. If you are finding it too overwhelming you can leave in your own time.

Talk to your HR department/Supervisor/Manager about how you are feeling about your return. Many employers also offer counselling services free of charge, during work hours.

Think about what you do or don't want to tell people or talk about. You might find that the support form some people is really quite comforting and you then feel quite comfortable in opening up with them. Go with what feels right for you.

Be aware that  you may come across insensitive comments, opinions and expectation from others. Remind yourself that they most likely have no idea what it feels like to lose a  baby.

Take one day at a time- acknowledge that things may be hard in the beginning

Know it is ok to not return to work for sometime, government assistance however may be required, please contact centrelink for further information on what your family may be entitled to.

The most important thing is to always put your feelings first.

Trudi Penrose-Starr Dip. Prof. Couns. (Grief and Loss).

TLC offers professional counselling and a free call bereavement support line.

We are here for you.